Choosing boys names is difficult. It was challenging the first time, tough the second time, and pretty darn brutal this time. Not that we know what we are having..not for another 4-8 weeks will we be able to find out. But I can assure you that if we don't think of a boys name, that's what we most definitely will be having. I mean, we've had a girl's name picked out, ready to go, for three years now...so I'm not sure of the likelihood that we'll ever get to actually use it. I love my boys, and would be very happy to have another one. But truly the most challenging part of the whole process is picking the name.
Our perameters are kind of tough. It must be a name that is a name that people know and could say. But it can't be common. Names like Ian, Connor, Logan, Caden, Brayden, and Max (while we really do like "Max") are completely out of the picture.
We like traditional names but we aren't quite as particular this time. Our "no" list of traditional names includes: Matthew, William, Charles, George, Albert, Alfred, Edward, Michael, and Nicholas. Some of these are merely just names that are too common and other we have associations that we don't like.
We've tossed around: Leo, Frederick, Theodore, Elijah, Henry, Isaac, Noah, Seth, Finn, Nevan, Benjamin, Oliver, Henry, Caleb, Walter, Nathanial, and more unusual ones like Armando, Ansel, Barrett, August, Seamus, Dmitri,and Benicio, Elliot, Emmett.
Obviously we've found some "no's" from that list too. Joanne doesn't like Dmitri, Benicio, Armando, or Nevan. Seamus and Ben with our last name sound ridiculous.
I don't like Elliot, Emmett, Ansel, August, or Leo as a stand alone name. I also think Barrett reminds me too much of the guy with a gun for an arm from Final Fantasy VII to want to pick it.
Caleb is the name of a friend of mine's son and it's a wee bit too common for me now. Noah and Elijah are also becoming more common (although I really like Elijah). Oliver and Gabriel are huge with two-mom families so I don't really want to perpetuate that stereotype. We like having something a little unique.
I was recently reminded of the Pharoah Seti where the name Seth really comes from who doesn't really have the most compassionate and glorius of histories.
We both like Frederick, Leo, Noah, Elijah, Henry...and really that's it right now. If I had to pick today, I'd pick Elijah. But then again, it has slowely creeped up the latter of popularity and most recently was number 26 on the social security administration's list of most popular names. 26 is pretty high for us.
We have contemplated Frederick since Arthur was born. We both think Fred is a great nickname and Frederick is a good solid name. Frederick Douglas would be an excellent association to the name too. However something keeps holding us back. We keep passing it over for other options we like more. So something might be telling us there is a reason we're not picking it.
As for "Leo". The problem we're having is that we can't agree on on a formal name. Joanne feels that "Leo" would be fine as a stand alone name. I feel that something bigger should be on the birth certificate and that "Leo" is too short for a formal name. But Leonardo...doesn't that seem so huge? Sure Da Vinci is an excellent source for a name but it really is a big name. Not a fan of Leonard and Joanne doesn't really like Leon either.
Henry is an issue too because if I named my son Henry, I'd call him Henry. Joanne would call him Harry. It's cute and all but in the midst of this Harry Potter mania the past few years, do we really want "Harry"? And I also kind of think that if we call him "Harry", we should just name him "Harry". Both of us don't like "Hank".
So there is Noah. Great name...nice legend. Number 15 on the list of popular names. Dang it.
So here we are...kind of at square one. I can't even possibly anticipate what we'll come up with at this point but if anyone has any suggestions feel free to leave some comments (click "0 comments" below the post and it will take you to the comments screen).
A name is a tough thing to choose..you're stuck with it for the rest of your life so of course, all parents want to pick something nice.